There's definitely a lot of pain
involved in any of the situations. But you don't necessarily
have to suffer. You must arise and resolve to get back your
confidence.
The following ways would help you do just that.
Look at the brighter side
If you have been laid off, it would be okay to feel bad about it
for a day or two but not more than that. Losing a job is a
terrible thing, but it does not mean the end of the world. Who
knows it might be a blessing in disguise. Maybe you have got
some time to review your life, get aware of where you are going,
have a look at your likes and hobbies which you could not
develop because of pressures of your job. Maybe this is an
opportunity to start afresh and live your life a new way which
is more in sync with your abilities and aptitude. Similarly, a
divorce may cause great pain but then you weren't too happy in
your marriage
either. It probably was just not meant to be. Now
you have a chance to rebuild your life the way you want it to
be.
Stop comparing yourself with other people
When we have a problem we always question God - "Oh, God, why
me?" Certainly God gave you a lot of rewards as well. Did you
then get up and ask God -"Oh God, why me?" That's what human
nature is all about. We complain and remember God when we are in
trouble or else we are too busy with ourselves. Stop looking at
other people who seem too happy and comfortable to you from a
distance. Stop comparing their comfort with your suffering. This
will only frustrate you further. Focus on yourself and make
every effort you can make to go out whenever you are feeling
down. Self-pity is very addictive and capable of destroying
lives. Instead of indulging in self-pity (though we all do from
time to time), take control of your life
and take responsibility
for your actions, learn from your mistakes and make a fresh
start.
And yeah...don't be bogged down when you hear a "NO". A "NO" is
something which even greats like Edison and Ford, too, had to
face. If you look at them positively, you will find that each
"NO" actually takes you closer to a "YES." It's been reported
time and time again that Edison conducted more than a thousand
failed experiments before he actually made an electric bulb! So
get going and take the an occasional no in stride.
Are you standing in your own way
You will notice that shadows are caused when we stand in the
path of sunshine. In our lives, too, we cause a lot of shadows
by standing in the way of our own happiness. In today's world,
it is important to be flexible. A lot of people will look for a
job for months, yet still reject work coming their way because
they are
not willing to adapt to some new job requirements.
Jane, a schoolteacher, was laid off from her job.
She kept trying for months to get a job as a teacher while
rejecting opportunities such as taking private tuitions, being a
nanny, doing copy-editing work as a freelancer. The long wait
hurt her self-confidence even more. Sometimes it is wise to be a
little flexible and adapt ourselves to new job demands rather
than to look exactly for what we lost. It helps regain
confidence quickly which brings along enough energy to get an
even better job in the field of your choice!
About the author:
Tony Robinson spent many years as a School Teacher and
Administrator. Always of concern was low self esteem and a lack
of confidence with some students. For more information visit
http://www.better-self-esteem.com
