of
your confidence building program.
However, the moment you enter your home you involuntarily grab
the remote and start channel surfing on the idiot box. It's only
after an hour that you realize that you have been vegetating in
front of the T.V in the time you had scheduled to do other
tasks. You realize that you have already disturbed your
schedule. In a self-development program, it's you and only you
who has the power to change yourself. Nobody will come to
monitor your actions and progress. You have to keep a watch on
your inner graph and see to it that it goes up! Avoid
temptations and stick to your schedule.
Are you lazy and keep procrastinating?
Procrastination is one of the greatest and most silent killers
of confidence. It does not let you complete your jobs and tasks
in time; things keep mounting and finally you get overwhelmed
by
all the many things that have piled up and need your attention.
The very basics of building confidence start with listing little
things that are doable. You gain more confidence to take on
greater tasks and responsibilities by successfully completing
the lighter tasks at hand.
However not being prompt and delaying important things till
they become urgent makes you miss the opportunity of working on
your confidence and puts you in danger of falling back again
into your earlier cycle, thereby wasting all the effort and
energy you had put in to becoming aware of your low confidence
trap and getting out of it.
Does your old self keep pulling you back?
Assume. Assume. Assume is the technique here. Assume that you
are a different person with habits you wanted to inculcate.
Imagine the way you would like to be. Imagine a self-confident
you
taking things in your stride. Then try to bring into your
daily actions the way you have imagined yourself to be. "I dream
by painting. Then I paint my dream" was the technique what the
great painter Vincent Van Gogh followed.
Your assumed self will make people react to you in a different
way, according to your new self. This will establish your new
self to the world and will help you keep up the new self before
it becomes a habit - a second nature! If you behave indecisively
and helplessly, you will invoke proportionate reactions from
people around you, thereby reinforcing your previous self. This
throws you back again. Remember that you cannot get ahead if you
keep looking back. Realize this and stop sliding back.
Don't copy self-confidence. Do not try to become like someone
else.
One of the greatest mistakes that people make
when trying to
increase their low self-confidence is falling in love with an
image of their icon who may be a sport star or a film star or
any celebrity and then they try to be like them. This is one of
the greatest mistakes that people can commit when trying in
increase their self-confidence. You have to be yourself at all
costs. Getting inspired is wonderful but merely aping these guys
won't take you anywhere. There is no need for any two people in
this universe to be exactly the same. The challenge is to be
yourself in a world that is trying to make you like everyone
else!
About the author:
Tony Robinson spent many years as a School Teacher and
Administrator. Always of concern was low self esteem and a lack
of confidence with some students. For more information visit
http://www.better-self-esteem.com
