Love is a beautiful emotion, a gift of God, given to a chosen
few. Not everybody get lots of love in his or her lifetime.
However, many times lovers mess it up by not able to meet each
other's expectations by growing too possessive, by becoming
overtly shy, by becoming unnecessarily skeptical and what not!
Most of the time, the culprit is within ourselves making us see
things much bigger and magnified than they actually are and
makes us overreact to events that could have been easily
avoided. It is much easier to lose than to build something -
especially when it comes to the matters of the heart. An
ignorant and careless person is vulnerable to losing a lot,
including his or her life partner as well. This article tells
you some simple things that you can remember to help keep you
from hurting your partner and keep your love life blossoming.
Here are some habits of self-confident lovers.
Self-confident
lovers are not jealous
If you are jealous of your partner, this is a sure indication
that the foundations of love are not deep enough to withstand
the wear and tear of time. Self confident lovers consider their
partners as an extension of their own selves and feel happy if
somebody has something good to say about their partners. There
is no "yours" or "mine" in their relationship. It's always
"ours," which forms the basis of their love.
Most people get embarrassed or skeptical, or annoyed when
someone makes a remark that "Your girl is so beautiful" or
"Don't you think your boyfriend has a talent of impressing girls
around." However, a confident man would say, "Yes. I know she is
so beautiful and we are proud to be in love," while a
self-confident girl will shoot back - "Yes. He impressed me
too!" Remember that your individual qualities now are a combined
"quality pool" belonging to you both, and both partners
must
treat is as an asset. This is only possible when both of you are
confident of each other's love and commitment.
Self-confident lovers are more forgiving
Since self-confident people can maintain a cool and calm
composure in the times of crisis, they are better at analyzing
situations and are able to put themselves in their partner's
shoes. This way, they get their partner's viewpoint and
understand their behavior. In many instances, it happens that
certain behavior of our partner annoys us or makes us skeptical.
Lack of self-confidence can also make us think negatively.
However, self-confident lovers believe in the policy of "forgive
and forget" and can move on.
Self-confident lovers make their partner more secure and
comfortable
In a relationship, looks do matter, but then the characteristics
that matter even more are a sensible and rational nature, sense
of humor, ability to
handle tough situations and more.
Self-confident lovers are the best places to look for these
attributes. Their self confidence is contagious and they are
promising professionals as well.
They enjoy respect and camaraderie, and nurture positive and
constructive thoughts. They seem to have the ability to push
away problems and provide for their family. In this world where
genuine love seems to be an urgent need to calm humanity, a
self-confident lover makes us feel secure, comfortable and this
life seems worth living for!
Self-confident lovers give their partner a great gift - the
gift of independence!
Sometimes love rather than liberate us, actually binds us. So
much so that a possessive partner would like to have all the
details of our lives. Who are the people you work with? Who was
that "Daniel" who gave you a call at 7 in the morning? Why do
you want to have your personal car? Why do you have
to wear
makeup every time you go out? Why are you wearing this dress at
this hour...and so on! Love, which was once the most beautiful
emotion in our lives, which seemed to fill us with hope and
enthusiasm, now seems to drain out all the energy from us.
You feel as if you are bound to someone, answerable to someone
and tethered to the wall with limited mobility. Love does not
seem much more than slavery. Self-confident lovers realize the
importance of independence. They let their partner fly and soar
great heights, because they know that at the end of the day, it
is to their arms their partner will return!
About the author:
Tony Robinson spent many years as a School Teacher and
Administrator. Always of concern was low self esteem and a lack
of confidence with some students. For more information visit
http://www.better-self-esteem.com
