As you develop your focus and energy conservation techniques you should find yourself becoming more self-confident in any given situation. It's inevitable that as you gain control over your thoughts and actions, you become more self-assured, simply because you know yourself better, and you can now control your own reactions.
This is an especially important skill to have when you are dealing with others. It doesn't matter what the situation is – whether you're dealing with co-workers, customers, your boss, your significant other, or even your children – the more self-confident you appear to the people you are dealing with, the more confident they will feel dealing with you. And the more confident others are in your abilities, the more confident you will feel within
yourself. It's the Law of the Circle at work again!
Even on the Internet, it's important that you feel confident when you are writing and email or responding to someone in a forum or a chat room. The Internet is nothing if not a gigantic transmitter of energy, so even without the visual clues that you would pick up in a traditional face-to-face interaction, your energy comes through loud and clear. And when you add in the fact that the most efficient human way to transmit energy is through the hands, it's no wonder that many people believe that your energy and intentions are even more pronounced when there's no other body language to confuse the issue. If you are feeling less than confident when you type, the other person will be able to sense this.
One of the key
components to being self-confident is peace of mind. It's another reason why staying calm and relaxed is such an important part of mental concentration. When you have peace of mind, you will not feel timid, anxious, fearful, or any of the other negative emotions that can make you appear less than confident.
It helps to think of this in a spiritual sense. Think of yourself as a spark of the Divine. When you see yourself in this way, you can't help but feel more confident in your self and your ability to accomplish whatever you set out to do.
For those times when you need a quick boost to your confidence levels, you can use this exercise:
The Two-Minute Confidence Booster:
Stand in front of a mirror, and visualize your reflection as the person you will
be interacting with. Center your attention on keeping your head perfectly still. To help with this you can use the Tai Chi visualization of your head being suspended by a string. This keeps your head and neck aligned, avoids building up tension in the neck area, and allows for an improved flow of energy throughout your body.
Focus on the thought that you are a person who inspires confidence.
Still standing before the mirror, practice taking deep breaths. See that there is plenty of fresh air in the room, and that you are literally feasting on it. Feel the fresh air filling up your body as you inhale, and as you exhale, feel all the tension and anxiety leaving your body.
You will find that as the fresh air permeates every cell in your body, any sense of
nervousness or timidity will disappear, and will be replaced with a sense of peace and power.
You can also use this affirmation to help: "Absolutely everything goes my way."
This is very helpful if you are unsure of the outcome of the meeting, such as a job interview, medical appointment, first meeting with a client, etc. I have used this one very successfully at the doctor's office when I'm waiting to get my blood pressure taken. That's one time when it's absolutely essential to feel as peaceful as possible!
About the Author
Ruth Ritchie-Farmer, M.A. is the author of How To Concentrate: 18 Easy Ways to Achieve Laser Beam Focus in Anything You Do. Read the first two chapters free at http://www.howtoconcentrate.com
