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Question From A Reader:

I have a two-edged issue for you that might be a little harder to answer...first, I am an older college student (42 in a few weeks) but wouldn't mind hooking up. I have a bit of a double whammy, however, because I am in pretty good shape, but I not very tall, and like a lot of guys my age, a good candidate for rogaine...any suggestions other than a rug for my head and grandma for a date?

Truth is, I get some good vibes from time to time, but they are usually muted, like the girl can't get over the feeling she is talking to her father or something...I take Salsa classes, so I get out plenty under good circumstances, but there are times when I can't get a single female off her ass even to dance. Unfortunately, I do not have this problem with women who are older than me. what gives?

Thomas

 

Hi Thomas,

42 and still in college? Are you going for a medical degree?

Actually I envy you. College is a great time to meet women, because everything is set up for you to interact with them! And you always have something in common (I mean, you're both going to school, right?).  But when guys get older, they tend to get a little more insecure about their ability to attract younger women, due to age doing its "thing." But rather than despair, keep this little fact in mind:

As men get older, their stock goes up!

Think about it. Men start to look more distinguished when we age, and we also tend to be more accomplished (ie: making more money, more stability, more experience, etc). People are accustomed to looking at older men in those respects. All this can add up to helping attract women of all ages.

With women, it's the opposite. As women get older, they have a harder time attracting men. Unless they get a man while they're still somewhat young and still have their looks, they're going to have a tough time of it. For instance, you yourself don't seem to want to go after women in your age range. And why should you? When you have all those hot young co-eds around!

So to answer the first part of your "double-whammy," your appearance should be taken into account when going after younger women. Now, 42 isn't all that old, so you shouldn't be dressing like you're in a retirement home. As opposed to looking trendy, I'd recommend you try to look GOOD.

There are lots of ways to do that.

Make sure you have nice clothes that fit you well and make you look sharp. A great place to shop for this look are stores like The Banana Republic. Their clothes are modern and trendy, but they are also quite distinguished. Try to keep in shape and work out regularly. You want to keep that body looking as good as you can.

As for the hair issue, this can be a sticking point for a lot of men. But men go bald, that's just how things are. People are used to it, and they accept it. The WORST thing you can do when you're going bald is try to hid the fact that this is what's happening. Better to accept it and go with it than try to fight it. Nowadays, being bald is a STYLISTIC choice men can make. You see guys shaving their heads all the time. This can be quite an attractive look for men. And if you don't want to shave your entire head, at least trim your hair down so that it's nicely cropped and you're not combing anything over.

Also, for balding men, growing facial hair is a good way to offset the lack of hair on your head. A goatee, partial goatee, or beard can go a long way in making you look good with no hair on the top of your dome. And don't worry about what women think when it comes to bald men. They're not going to reject you outright for not having any hair -- even the young ones. When it comes to women, always remember that your attitude is the most important thing to getting them interested in you. With a good attitude, all your physical shortcomings can be made up for.

As for your "muted good vibes" comment, make sure that this is an observation that's really happening as opposed to a belief you are imposing on a situation. As guys get older, they tend to doubt their ability to attract younger women. After all, they're not as young as they used to be!

But this is just an excuse.

How many older guys do you see frolicking around with younger women all the time? They're out there. Trust me. And there's more of them than you'd think. When you're young, you can leverage things like your looks or your ability to have fun to attract women. As you get older, you have to learn to use other things to attract them. For instance, security. Older men can offer a lot more security to women than younger guys can. This is something that's important to a woman -- even younger ones. Experience is another one. If you can show a girl that you know how to please a woman and can put these younger guys to shame, she's going to get interested in you.

If you're getting muted reactions, it might be because you're not doing enough flirting. Because you're older, women may not instantly pick-up on the fact that you're interested in them. But if you can flirt with them and SHOW you're interested in a subtle way, you'll be able to gauge whether or not they're interested in you romantically. I won't lie to you, not all younger women will reciprocate. But lots will, if you have the right attitude of fun and excitement, show you're stable and experiences, and flirt in the right way.

If you don't know how to flirt, I go into great detail on this subject in my book, The Art Of Approaching. In it, I tell you exactly what to do to subtly attract women and find out if they're interested in you. If you haven't picked up a copy of my book yet, you can do so by clicking here.

When it comes to the age of the women you're going after, keep in mind that plays a factor too. Typically, young women in the 18-26 range are looking to have fun, so that's what you'll have to focus on with them. Women in the 27-32 age range are starting to feel their biological clock tick, so they're looking to settle down and have some kids, so they're more interested in stability and experience. Women 33 and above are typically looking for a well established man who will take care of them and treat them well (and they know they can't get that with the young guys).

So depending on the age of the woman, you'll have to tailor your approach differently.

Hope that helps! Good luck.

Joseph Matthews