email address. Anybody who asks you
these early in the conversation, take it as a warning. You are
in control here, and you can stop communicating when you feel
uncomfortable.
A lot of sites offer a messaging system which can be used for
communicating with singles. Using this system is safer than
using your email.
* Remain anonymous. Don't give personal information readily.
During communications, ask questions. Ask him or her about his
hobbies, education, career and interests. Take note of all of
these, as the person you are talking to needs to be consistent.
If they are not consistent then chances are they are not being
truthful with you and not worth your time.
* Be honest. Likewise in your end, be honest enough, but at the
same time not giving too much information as far as your work
and home address is concerned. Just be truthful with your
conversations. Convey your intentions as clearly as possible.
And if you don't like him, tell him politely. Don't find
excuses
and give him the impression that you are interested in meeting
with him.
* Be safe. If after many emails both of you feel that it is time
to be talking on the phone, the man should be the one to give
the girl his number and the girl should be the one to call the
man. The girl should never give her phone number.
* Be protected. When you are definitely sure that you would want
to meet the person offline, ask him for references, such as his
friends, relatives or co- workers. This is not to give them the
feeling that you don't trust them, but if they too trust you,
they would understand that you are very much willing to meet
with him, but you just want to be on the safe side. If he has a
genuine and sincere interest in you and has nothing to be afraid
of, then he shouldn't repel, but willingly give you all the
information.
You could also do a background check. There are sites which
offer this for free.
The meeting:
* Inform somebody of the
meeting. When the plan for a meeting is
already set up, make certain you tell your friend or a member of
the family where exactly are you going and who you're meeting.
* Bring your cell phone along, so in cases of emergency, you can
call your friend right away.
* Use common sense and judge accordingly.
* Meet him or her in a public place such as a café, park,
museum, or anywhere as long as there are a lot of people.
Dos and Don'ts on your first date:
* Do pray before a date (for Christians)
* Do be on time.
* Do look good and be neat.
* Do compliment.
* Do make your date comfortable.
* Do listen.
* Do talk about something you have a common interest with (for
Christians, talk about the verses in the bible and ask each
other's opinions).
* Do take her to your church (for Christians).
* Do be an exciting date. Listen to your date and make sure to
let your date feel that
you are interested with all that he/she
has to say.
* Do ask your date about her hobbies, career and future plans.
* Do be romantic.
* Do enjoy your moment together.
* Do laugh at her jokes.
* Do be yourself.
* Do avoid touching.
Don'ts
* Don't be late.
* Don't talk about your past relationship.
* Don't pretend.
* Don't ask too much questions.
* Don't show disrespect to your date's beliefs.
* Don't forget to say thank you after the date.
About the author:
Jay is the web owner of http://www.singles-in.com Online Singles, a website
that provides information and resources on personals, dating,
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