information such as full name, address, phone
number and email address. Anybody who asks you these early in
the conversation, take it as a warning. You are in control here,
and you can stop communicating when you feel uncomfortable. A
lot of sites offer a messaging system which can be used for
communicating with singles. Using this system is safer than
using your email.
Remain anonymous. Don't give personal information readily.
During communications, ask questions. Ask him or her about his
hobbies, education, career and interests. Take note of all of
these, as the person you are talking to needs to be consistent.
If they are not consistent then chances are they are not being
truthful with you and not worth your time. Be honest. Likewise
in your end, be honest enough, but at the same time not giving
too much information as far as your work and home address is
concerned. Just be truthful with your
conversations. Convey your
intentions as clearly as possible. And if you don't like him,
tell him politely. Don't find excuses and give him the
impression that you are interested in meeting with him.
Be safe. If after many emails both of you feel that it is time
to be talking on the phone, the man should be the one to give
the girl his number and the girl should be the one to call the
man. The girl should never give her phone number. Be protected.
When you are definitely sure that you would want to meet the
person offline, ask him for references, such as his friends,
relatives or co- workers. This is not to give them the feeling
that you don't trust them, but if they too trust you, they would
understand that you are very much willing to meet with him, but
you just want to be on the safe side. If he has a genuine and
sincere interest in you and has nothing to be afraid of, then he
shouldn't repel, but
willingly give you all the information.
You could also do a background check. There are sites which
offer this for free.
The meeting:
Inform somebody of the meeting. When the plan for a meeting is
already set up, make certain you tell your friend or a member of
the family where exactly are you going and who you're meeting.
Bring your cell phone along, so in cases of emergency, you can
call your friend right away. Use common sense and judge
accordingly. Meet him or her in a public place such as a café,
park, museum, or anywhere as long as there are a lot of people.
Dos and Don'ts on your first date:
Do pray before a date (for Christians), Do be on time, Do look
good and be neat, Do compliment, Do make your date comfortable,
Do listen, Do talk about something you have a common interest
with (for Christians, talk about the verses in the bible and ask
each other's
opinions), Do take her to your church (for
Christians), Do be an exciting date, Listen to your date and
make sure to let your date feel that you are interested with all
that he/she has to say, Do ask your date about her hobbies,
career and future plans, Do be romantic, Do enjoy your moment
together, Do laugh at her jokes, Do be yourself, Do avoid
touching
Don'ts
Don't be late, Don't talk about your past relationship, Don't
pretend, Don't ask too many questions, Don't show disrespect to
your date's beliefs, Don't forget to say thank you after the
date.
About the author:
Jay is the web owner of http://www.singles-in.com Singles, a website that
provides information and resources on personals, dating, and
singles. You can visit his website at: Online Personals
