So you've just joined an online dating site. You hurriedly, and
half-heartedly fill out a profile with no picture, and then wait
to be contacted. Several weeks go by, nothing. Now you are
beginning to feel discouraged.
Maybe people aren't as desperate as you first thought. You
return to the site to do some browsing, you pick out a few
profiles, and contact the people. Still nothing after a few more
weeks. You are now tempted to contact the same people over and
over again,
thinking they didn't get your message the first
time. But the fact is, they did, and repeated contacts is not
advisable, as it'd portray you as desperate, controlling, or
worse a stalker.
Here are some things you may be doing wrong that are preventing
you from getting a response.
The people you are contacting do not know you. Your profile is
the only thing they have to go by in evaluating your worth.
Furthermore, these people have hundreds of other profiles
to
browse. If your profile is not up to par, they'd quickly move to
the next.
Does your profile include a photo? Does it include relevant
information to help people know you? Does your profile
demonstrate your seriousness of purpose in finding someone? Is
the language in your description demeaning?
Compare your dating profile to a job resume. You wouldn't put
out a lackluster resume and expect to be taken seriously by any
employer would you? In that regard,
liken your online dating
experience to a job search and therefore make your profile as
attractive as possible.
A personal ads web site, http://www.oasisoflove.com keeps track
of your past behavior on the site, and your record acts as a
barometer for measuring how you are likely to act in future. The
site keeps a record of how you've been responding to messages
sent to you, and how quickly?
The bottomline is, if you are
failing at attracting responses on
a dating site, the problem may be you. Revamp your image
(profile), add a photo, reply to messages sent to you, and
promptly. Be proactive and contact as many users as you can.
www.oasisoflove.com is a free site, so there is nothing limiting
your ability to contact many users.
About the author:
Founder and CTO of http://www.oasisoflove.com/, a full-featured,
