With research showing that around 30% of us are looking online
for friendship and/or romance, then using an Online Dating
Service no longer has the stigma attached to it that it used to
have say six or seven years ago.
Using online dating and friendship sites are now an accepted
way of meeting people, whether you are purely looking to
increase your social circle and find people with similar tastes
and interests to you or whether you are looking for romance - or
even more!
Meeting people online is a popular and safe way to meet
like-minded people - forget smoky nightclubs and the bubble
bursting when the
person who looks like the type you want to get
to know better turns out to have completely different ideals and
interests to you.
Once you've met a few people who sound nice, you are in control
of how the situation goes, so you can go at your own pace,
chatting online or sending an email until you decide it is time
to speak on the 'phone or meet up - if at all.
The beauty of making friends online is that you can do it any
time of day or night. It is great if you are a single parent and
unable to go out; if you work unsociable hours; or if the idea
of going out to clubs and bars makes you think "meat
market".
Dating or meeting people on the Web means you can get to know
someone really well before you meet up so that you can se that
your tastes, intellect and ideals are the same.
So, how can you make the most out of using a online dating
service (and remember, just because it has the word 'dating' in
it, doesn't mean that you cannot meet people for friendship on
there)?
First of all, to find a site, do a search using a search engine
and type in words and phrases such as "online friendship",
"online dating", meet people online etc". You can then visit a
few sites to see how they operate and
to see which ones you feel
comfortable with.
Once you've found one - or even two or three! - websites you
like the look of, you can register your details (most will allow
you to register free) and then start meeting and chatting to
people online.
Many also have offline activities, such as met ups in pubs, and
organised events, which is a great way to go out without any
pressure to meet anyone. It can also help you to put a face to a
name if you have been chatting online for a while to someone!
If you do decide to meet someone on a one-to-one basis, then of
course you should employ all the
common sense safety precautions
you'd do normally such as meeting in a busy place and telling
people where you are going etc. Sadly, meeting people online
does not mean you'll never meet an unscrupulous person again.
The positive new is that online dating and friendship sites have
spawned a great many marriages, babies and strong friendships,
so if there is a space in your life, going online could be the
answer.
About the author:
Jason Hulott is Director of Dating at UK Dating Online , a UK online dating
service with Reviews of the major dating services.
